Are you really doing your job

Are you really doing your job Fathers Day is a big deal in our house because we have two dads. We have the boys biological dad my Ex and we have the Farmer. On Sundays, including Fathers Day, we all spend the day together, on the farm, in mostly harmony. It is not perfect. A few weeks ago, my Ex left early because Im so annoying to him. And just this morning, the Farmer and I had a fight that scared the kids so much they cried. But I think we are doing okay. And on Fathers Day I feel particularly grateful for both men, because they work really hard to make sure the kids feel like they have an integrated, stable family. The New York Times says that women go into politics to change something, and men go into politics to be someone. I think this is true for all work, not just politics. I think women are more likely to feel important because they are home with kids, which is why more women than men leave the workforce to be with kids. Men are changing how they parent, but not too much, because theres still this survey from ERE that shows men prefer work to being home with kids. I do not believe we can change things completely. We are who we are. Men and women are different. The more I write about these differences in the workplace, the more I appreciate the differences at home. We all know that if a mom is at the playground with three kids, no one notices, but if a dad is there, people say, Hes such a great dad. I know that Fathers Day is traditionally the day to say how great dads are blah blah. But I have a feeling that the biggest compliment we can say to a dad is that hes showing up. Hes there, reliably, doing his job, and its no big deal. Because dads are expected to do their job. So today my Ex played with the kids while I surfed the web, and I saw that the Farmer posted to his blog about Fathers Day. And he quoted my sons blog, about the farm. And now Im going to quote both those posts. And if you are thinking that you are blogging because you are going to earn money from it, think again. Blogging is about ideas, self-discovery, and growth. And anyone who lives a life about ideas and self-discovery will be worth more in the workplace, no matter who else is reading your blog. So, heres the Farmers post from his blog, that quotes my sons post from my sons blog: Happy Fathers Day! This is my second Fathers Day, but the first where I feel Ive really put in the work. Parenting has more challenges than rewards, but Im thankful to have the opportunity. Shepherd is a budding writer, and updates a blog for family and friends. I thought I would share the following entry from his blog. It made my day. Last year I raised baby tadpoles and set them free as frogs. And this year Im going to do it again. A few days ago, I went down to my grandparents pond with my dad and we caught one very interested toad, but we let it go because the tadpoles are what we want to raise and we will just let frogs and toads be loose. Thats the main thing in project. Its fun to catch the tadpoles in the pond. Me and my dad also caught a leopard frog. Its a not a frog-sized leopard! Its basically a leopard-quick frog thats yellow with black dots, but not poisonous. Two big achievements that me and my dad made were: 1. Catching a bullfrog tadpole with legs. The back row of legs, that is. 2. Another thing we did was we found the tadpole nest. But we didnt take anything from it because it would disturb the nest. Thats where we found a leopard frog, but we didnt catch it. We found the leopard we caught on our way back to the truck. The reason we didnt keep the frogs and toads we caught was because they would probably eat the small tadpoles. I had a great time.